Because becoming never ends

It wasn’t until my friendships started to fade (all at the same time), that I realized what a house of cards my self love really was. After spending most of my life deriving my self worth and love based on how many people loved me (and called me “best friend”), I had to really dig deep into myself to figure out who I was (more so, how wonderful I was) without others’ making me feel that way.

Grief hasn't been like I expected. In this episode, I talk about my journey with grief and my unexpected learnings/growth along the way.

To be honest, this episode was a challenge for me. A challenge to dive deeper into myself and speak on something that has been top of soul, heart, and body for me for a while. A challenge to be vulnerable and lean into the fear of sharing something that been a part of me for most of this year.

I spent a lot of timing believing that I was born a certain type of person and would (in some aspects) retain those aspects of myself forever. What I’ve come to learn is while that is NOT true, there are certain actions that need to be taken to start to shift aspects of myself that I don’t feel represent me or serve me anymore.

“Self love” is a term that gets thrown around quite a bit. I used to think it was about signing up for some self care time - whether it was going to get that massage, going to get my nails done, or even eating that ice cream that I was really craving. I recently learned that I had barely been scratching the surface of what self love was really about.

Just because we’re meant for great things - that doesn’t always mean our path there will be the easiest. Just because we are in a situation that might launch us to the next level - that doesn’t always mean we are ready / willing to level up.

I used to make the mistake of always trusting the first emotion that came up in regards to a situation. I've learned over the years, that what first comes up isn't how I'm truly feeling.

As a BONUS, I've included two exercises that I use to figure out what/how I'm really feeling.

I grew up thinking that it was feeling your feelings that gave them power. And so, naturally, I thought that was something I should never do. I learned - the very easy way as you can imagine (PSYCH) - that the truth is the very opposite.

A lot of us have heard the sentiment that “what’s meant to happen to me (or for me) will happen no matter what.” I’ve seen the evidence stack up against this time and time again (both in my life & in others), and I’ve come to learn that unless you add in the ingredient of hard work, nothing is guaranteed.

I think a lot of us can relate to learning that health was a destination that could only be achieved with doctors & drugs. While they have their place, I’ve come to learn that health is more so a holistic journey that, in some ways, we’re always on.